Lesson 1 of 8
Script a DEAR MAN
About 10 min
The goal
Write out one real request using the DEAR MAN structure before you have to say it live.
Do it step by step
- 1
Pick one small, real request you'd like to make this week.
- 2
Describe the facts in one sentence — no blame, no exaggeration.
- 3
Express how it affects you: "I feel..." or "I find it hard to..."
- 4
Assert the ask clearly in one sentence, then Reinforce: what's in it for them or the relationship?
- 5
Read it out loud twice. Adjust anything that sounds like an apology for asking.
For parents
Offer to be the practice audience, and say yes (or negotiate kindly) when the script is used on you — it proves the skill works at home.
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