Lesson 7 of 8
Validation levels: climb one step
About 6 min
The goal
Practise deeper levels of validation.
Do it step by step
- 1
Level 1: pay full attention — put down your phone.
- 2
Level 2: reflect back what you heard.
- 3
Level 3: guess the unspoken feeling.
- 4
Level 4: say why it makes sense given the person's experiences or situation.
- 5
Try one level higher than usual in your next conversation.
For parents
Validating a feeling isn't agreeing with a behaviour. You can do both: validate, then problem-solve.
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